eugh, get it offame!

just got done having an exchange with one of the most passive agressive people i've met in a while (pot, kettle, shush. I know. Workin on it!)

The unofficial organizer/alpha bitch/cutest geekette of the GeekCruise gang posted today about changing our cruise due to some of the ports are in countries having political unrest.

I responded with my concerns--that it had taken quite some time for the group to settle on this sailing, that some folks had already booked and paid deposits, and that she had not liked Jamaica for safety concerns, but those of us who went did fine. And if Carnival has to skip a port, we'd be likely to pick up some freebies or discounts to appease us, so win, even if we skip a port.

Her reply was 'I was not making up how dangerous Jamaica is, I'm just trying to keep people safe. Sorry for caring about peoples' safety'

So I called her on the passive agressive, and clarified that i was not calling her a liar re:Jamaica, restated my points, and asked her not to pull any more passive agressive on me because it's 'unhelpful, unfair, and unkind'

She then deleted the whole conversation and posted 'everything's shiny'

I dislike this sort of non resolution and non discussion. I dislike being characterized as someone who does not care about everyone's safety because I would not do what she wanted me to do.

I did my best to be honest and kind. It may not have been THE best thing to do, but it was MY best, and I'm not angry or ashamed of myself. I will feel sad if we end up losing her and the geek cruisers as friends over it, but I will not be angry or bitter. I will accept the consequences.

Oh well...I'm annoyed but I will not die. I like the geek cruise folks but I will not feel too bad if they all end up following PA Alpha on another sailing.



the deletery bits ( Read more... )

And fooey, I don't have any of mine, she deleted them and my own FB posts don't go to my gmail box.

Oh well. Probably for the best.

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10 Day Meme - Five books/movies/tv series/etc that you'd recommend.

OK, I have lots of these, so I'm going to do 5 books, 5 movies, and 5 TV series. AND etcetera!

Books:

1) Pippi Longstocking

2) Anne McCaffrey's Pern books (only read these for the first time in your preteen years. these books don't stand up well to adulthood, but they were great when I was 12 or so)

3) The Witches of Eastwick (I've read this pretty much once a year since I was in my late 20's...I find I identify with a different character each time.)

4) The Oracle Glass (and any other books I've read by Judith Merkle Riley. Supernatural adventure historical romance. You've got costumes, decadent parties, alchemy, gods and demons, suspense, murder, bad guys, good guys, and true love, what else can you ask for?)

5) How to Be Compassionate, by the Dalai Lama (reading it right now, it's really, really good. We are all human. We are all trying to be happy and avoid suffering. We hurt ourselves and each other by making mistakes in our thoughts, feelings, and actions in attempts to create happiness and avoid suffering. We can fix our mistakes, develop patience and compassion, and help each other and ourselves to become happy. We don't have to be doormats or endure bad behavior, but there's no point to anger or hate. It's stupidly simple and true, true, true, so true it hurts.)


Movies:

1) Labyrinth. My all time favorite, I think. (any Jim Henson movie is going to be a winner with me--Dark Crystal, Muppets, etc.)

2) The Big Lebowski. I hated this movie the first time I saw it.

3) Short Bus. (RL orgies look nothing like the ones in this movie, BTW.)

4) Fried Green Tomatoes. I don't usually do 'chick flicks' but I really love this one.

5) I can't pick a #5... let's call it a tie between Natural Born Killers and The Linguini Incident. :)

TV Series:

1) "Star Trek" the original series. Been a Trekkie since I was 11. :)

2) I really liked "Space: Above and Beyond" even though it was short-lived.

3) "Heroes." I even liked the stinky season everyone else hated. (got it from Netflix, didn't watch it on TV)

4) "Big Bang Theory" (got it on Netflix, didn't watch it on TV)

5) I vaguely remember a TV series called (I think) "Wizards & Warriors" I liked it a lot at the time but I doubt it was really all that good. Still, I might like to see an episode or two again sometime.

etc:

1) Malbec. it's a nice deep dark red wine that is absolutely fantastic with a steak.

2) Memory Foam mattresses & pillows. best. sleep. evar.

3) Hitachi Magic Wand. No explanation needed.

4) Las Vegas. You could go to Paris, Venice, New York, Hawaii, and San Francisco over the course of many miles and lots of time. Or you could go to the cleaner, brighter, only-slightly-smaller Las Vegas versions of each of those, all in a weekend.

5) Whatever happened to "Fizzl'd Fruits" Skittles? They were kinda cool the one time I tried them and I've never seen them again.