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Well, Hell.
Sep. 26th, 2007 12:55 pmNo sooner did I cut Myspace out of my life in an attempt to minimize drama, but that bottom-feeding druggie ex X started commenting in my yahoo 360 blog and emailed me after that, when the comment didn't get a response. At least in this one situation, I can happily say that I have NOT fed the trolls, and I don't intend to. It's pretty hard when she brings the kids into it. She finally...finally...finally said what I needed to hear so long ago. I feel like it's too little too late, but at least she said it.
Date: Wed, 26 Sep 2007 10:30:04 -0700 (PDT)
From: "Crystal A."
Because of me you had to lose your relationship with my children, that hurt all of you and that is all my fault.
She said a lot of other stuff, too...and closed with a paragraph on how to contact her daughter & how much it would mean to the child if I got in touch. But, truthfully...back when the kid was 9 or so, I noticed her adopting her mother's ways of manipulating and using people, and by the time she was 13 she was adept at saying what she thought the grownups wanted to hear. She was in alot of AP stuff at school--not that she was academically gifted, but she
was well-behaved at school, craved teacher approval, and was good at parroting back whatever she thought the teachers wanted to hear. You could probably ask her facts and figures type questions and do allright, but as far as critical thinking, Zero.
ANYWAY...the child was turning into a spoiled little user/manipulator back then, and has only had 4 more years to perfect her 'act'...so do I really want to try and undo that lifetime of damage and try to model authentic human behavior for her? Or is that even my job?
The most cynical parts of me note that X mentions the child is about to be graduated from HS and trying for college. Cynical E thinks aha. we are trolling for college money, aren't we?. The part of me who still hurts and feels broken and empty misses the children desperately wants very much to believe X's sincerity and at least try for a relationship with the goddaughter.
But...luckily or unluckily, Cynical E is in charge of the keyboard fingers.
*sigh*
Oh, and Thax's (not yet legally) ex wife apparently just found out about us and wrote a sad little LJ entry. I feel bad for her, but I am not going to say anything 'out loud'...I don't think she's interested in my thoughts or feelings. I have nothing but respect for her intellect but I think the relationship was unhealthy and they are both better off now. So, best for me to just stay quiet.
No feeding the Drama today.
Date: Wed, 26 Sep 2007 10:30:04 -0700 (PDT)
From: "Crystal A."
Because of me you had to lose your relationship with my children, that hurt all of you and that is all my fault.
She said a lot of other stuff, too...and closed with a paragraph on how to contact her daughter & how much it would mean to the child if I got in touch. But, truthfully...back when the kid was 9 or so, I noticed her adopting her mother's ways of manipulating and using people, and by the time she was 13 she was adept at saying what she thought the grownups wanted to hear. She was in alot of AP stuff at school--not that she was academically gifted, but she
was well-behaved at school, craved teacher approval, and was good at parroting back whatever she thought the teachers wanted to hear. You could probably ask her facts and figures type questions and do allright, but as far as critical thinking, Zero.
ANYWAY...the child was turning into a spoiled little user/manipulator back then, and has only had 4 more years to perfect her 'act'...so do I really want to try and undo that lifetime of damage and try to model authentic human behavior for her? Or is that even my job?
The most cynical parts of me note that X mentions the child is about to be graduated from HS and trying for college. Cynical E thinks aha. we are trolling for college money, aren't we?. The part of me who still hurts and feels broken and empty misses the children desperately wants very much to believe X's sincerity and at least try for a relationship with the goddaughter.
But...luckily or unluckily, Cynical E is in charge of the keyboard fingers.
*sigh*
Oh, and Thax's (not yet legally) ex wife apparently just found out about us and wrote a sad little LJ entry. I feel bad for her, but I am not going to say anything 'out loud'...I don't think she's interested in my thoughts or feelings. I have nothing but respect for her intellect but I think the relationship was unhealthy and they are both better off now. So, best for me to just stay quiet.
No feeding the Drama today.
