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Emotional Abusers
Apr. 10th, 2006 09:49 pmI love heartless-bitches.com. Several of my friends linked to various articles on this webpage today. Their stuff is DEAD on.
I found another really GREAT link to add to my 'abuse library'. There is also a link at the bottom of this article to other abuse help sites. The gender language, as is prevalent in abuse literature, portrays the abuser as male and the abused as female, but from my own experiences, I have seen that in many cases, the abuser is a woman. Especially EMOTIONAL abusers.
Some things from this article really made me sit up and take notice. I have seen this kind of abuse first hand, and watched how a continual pattern of emotional battering can reduce a happy, healthy, creative, interesting, sane human being to a empty shell--dead behind the eyes, nothing more than a wallet with a penis that says 'yes' and 'I'm sorry' a lot.
This article broke my heart in some ways, making me realize I'd tolerated my dear ones being abused in front of my face, because I didn't realize it was being done, or wasn't comfortable pointing out the abuser's behavior, because it was just on the edge of 'socially acceptable' (making fun of someone and calling them 'stupid' repeatedly, for example).
The article ended on such a hopeful note that I can find some few drops of hope, yet, for the ones I love who are still in my heart, even though they are not physically or emotionally close, or a big part of my life anymore.
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It is NOT wrong, or unhealthy to want someone to love and care about you and care for you, and to want to reciprocate.
People who ARE capable of genuinely loving you in a healthy and safe way, DON'T WANT TO HURT YOU, and do not DELIBERATELY DO THINGS TO HURT YOU. They don't play on your insecurities and they don't wage psychological warfare on you. They don't blame YOU for all the relationship problems, and they don't fabricate problems just so you can be the scapegoat.
People who love you will treat you with respect, consideration, courtesty, honesty and compassion. If you are with someone who matches the abusive behavior in this article, get help. The sooner you wake up to the fact that the relationship is unhealthy, and move on, the sooner your life will improve.
Remember: Safe People are people who draw you closer to who you were meant to be spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically. They encourage you to be your most loving, growing self.
I found another really GREAT link to add to my 'abuse library'. There is also a link at the bottom of this article to other abuse help sites. The gender language, as is prevalent in abuse literature, portrays the abuser as male and the abused as female, but from my own experiences, I have seen that in many cases, the abuser is a woman. Especially EMOTIONAL abusers.
Some things from this article really made me sit up and take notice. I have seen this kind of abuse first hand, and watched how a continual pattern of emotional battering can reduce a happy, healthy, creative, interesting, sane human being to a empty shell--dead behind the eyes, nothing more than a wallet with a penis that says 'yes' and 'I'm sorry' a lot.
This article broke my heart in some ways, making me realize I'd tolerated my dear ones being abused in front of my face, because I didn't realize it was being done, or wasn't comfortable pointing out the abuser's behavior, because it was just on the edge of 'socially acceptable' (making fun of someone and calling them 'stupid' repeatedly, for example).
The article ended on such a hopeful note that I can find some few drops of hope, yet, for the ones I love who are still in my heart, even though they are not physically or emotionally close, or a big part of my life anymore.
It is NOT wrong, or unhealthy to want someone to love and care about you and care for you, and to want to reciprocate.
People who ARE capable of genuinely loving you in a healthy and safe way, DON'T WANT TO HURT YOU, and do not DELIBERATELY DO THINGS TO HURT YOU. They don't play on your insecurities and they don't wage psychological warfare on you. They don't blame YOU for all the relationship problems, and they don't fabricate problems just so you can be the scapegoat.
People who love you will treat you with respect, consideration, courtesty, honesty and compassion. If you are with someone who matches the abusive behavior in this article, get help. The sooner you wake up to the fact that the relationship is unhealthy, and move on, the sooner your life will improve.
Remember: Safe People are people who draw you closer to who you were meant to be spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically. They encourage you to be your most loving, growing self.
