evile: I am listening to my launchcast & Bond just came up. If I were
suddenly incredibly wealthy, I would want to see a Cirque du Soleil
show with Bond playing the music.
Sharjinka: That would be so AWESOME!!
evile: wouldn't it? I get some great ideas...too bad I can't do
anything with 'em.
Sharjinka: :-) That's a fantastic idea though. E-mail Bond and let
them know.
evile: :) Have you ever emailed them? Do they actually answer or
anything?
evile: That would be cool; I'd totally go.
evile: I liked how the musicians came in from the sides & went
onstage for Varekai.
Sharjinka: :-D I don't know. I've never tried it. But it's an
idea. Why wouldn't they listen??
evile: For "Mystere" in Las Vegas, there are 2 stages on either side
of the main stage, and you can see the musicians the whole time.
Sharjinka: That's so cool! Let's go to Vegas!
evile: Oh well. I found the email addy for their management and sent
my idea off. It would be cool if they did anything with it.
evile: I would LOVE to go to Vegas :) Once I get my IRS refund I
should definitely figure out how best to spend it :)
Sharjinka: I paid the government this year. No return. :-(
evile: SUCK!!!
evile: Now that you're a home-owner, you ought to do better next year.
Sharjinka: I think I will definitely. This year....I had to pay up
on some student loans.
evile: ouch. I know it has to be done, but still. ouch!
Sharjinka: I'm kind of glad I paid it off. I've been dreading it for
years.
Sharjinka: I think that was an end of the year interest on the loan.
I'm not sure how much more I owe. If I could get a roommate, I could
start paying on the principle again.
evile: It does give you a great sense of accomplishment--like you're
not a 'real grownup' until you pay off your student loans :)
Sharjinka: Exactly!
evile: Sweetie & I bought our first new appliance last night--we got a
new dishwasher. That made me feel like a grownup :)
Sharjinka: I've been feeling too grown up lately. The neighbor told
me that she wants to replace the fenceline and we'd split the cost.
It sounded fair, but I'm not sure I can afford it.
Sharjinka: But to adopt a dog, the fence needs to be better. *sigh*
This grown up thing is over rated.
evile: yeah...that's about what I was thinking :P
Sharjinka: :-D
evile: Sweetie was all like "do you like this one?" and I'm all...what's
to like? If it works, let's buy it.
Sharjinka: I'm kind of that way. I was a bit picky about the
fridge. I really like those silver ones. Low cleaning on that.
evile: *nod*
Sharjinka: :-D
evile: I am all for whatever makes me do less housework.
Sharjinka: Yep. I have cleaned it once, I think. :-) I got it
about a month ago. Still looks brand new. Loving that part. :-D
evile: that's the nice thing about living alone & with no pets :)
Sharjinka: Yeah....
evile: I wouldn't give up my life for anything, but I do sometimes
miss the days when I could clean and put things away, and have
everything stay clean & put away.
Sharjinka: :-) Yeah......
evile: having a new dishwasher makes everything else in the kitchen
look old. dang.
Sharjinka: HeeHee.... :-D
evile: I've been window-shopping online for more stuff...it's kind of
fun to do that sometimes.
Sharjinka: I can understand. I really haven't because I've gotten so
much already. I don't think all my bills will be paid until summer.
evile: Yeah. I just make wish lists for now.
Sharjinka: :-)
evile: that's the nice thing about owning a house--you can make
really long-range plans, you don't have to do everything right now
Sharjinka: True. And I've been doing that. :-D
Sharjinka: I plan to re-tile the laundry room.
evile: things that you work for and wait for mean more, anyway.
Sharjinka: Very true. Going skating tonight? Short term plan.....
evile: Yes, I'm planning on going skating.
Sharjinka: Cool!
evile: I feel somewhat wicked--I put chrisloy and kaleon in touch
with one another.
evile: Not exactly on purpose--she made some offhand comment about
how she wanted to slap sineater upside the head, and I basically
said "NEVER say that again to me, because according to her ex, she
does that to him all the time and it's all I can do to keep from
killing her, I have NO qualms about you,"
Sharjinka: What??? Does Skye hit sineater or did I miss something in
this comment?
Sharjinka: Sorry, I was somewhat distracted by a student.
evile: According to Kaleon,she does. So I had to show chrisloy the LJ
comment he wrote about that....and now they're commenting in one
another's LJs.
evile: skye_ds will probably FREAk when she reads my friends' LJs and
realizes that they're in touch. Oh well. If she's busy enough
freaking out at them, maybe we can sneak sineater out :P
Sharjinka: That would be a cool plan. I'm sorry but the more I see
them together, the more I wish sineater would just GET AWAY!
evile: *nod*
Sharjinka: *sigh* :-)
Sharjinka: I should be less violent. Bilal came in and took some
chocolate and was jumping around. Pulled a letter opener on him. I
don't think he has ever seen me move fast. I think he's in the
bathroom.....
evile: There is hope. My stepdad is going to be in TX this next week,
in Austin next Thurs and Fri
evile: Bilal is the cake guy, right? That's hilarious :)
evile: I figured you'd at least have peace & quiet during spring
break!
Sharjinka: Yes. He was jumping around, shoving the chocolate under
my nose and jumping away.
evile: silly!
Sharjinka: He didn't see me open the desk and take the letter opener
out.
evile: And you say you're slow!!
Sharjinka: He was just caught off guard. ;-) Won't see him again
for weeks, I'm sure.
evile: *LOL!* That's one way to keep a quiet office!
Sharjinka: Will it help him if the Step-Dad is here?
Sharjinka: I did want peace during the break.
evile: My mom says sineater and his dad talked on the phone a while after
he and I had chatted on ICQ about him leaving...so hopefully they've
started talking about the possibility of sineater leaving.
evile: My aunt is prepared to sic her family practice attorney on A.
My aunt and uncle are prepared to board the horses 'pending division
of property'. I have a couple of places where Arthur could be safely
boarded.
Sharjinka: *sigh*
Sharjinka: I'm so glad. After what you told me about Arthur.....I'm
really worried about them.
evile: I think that is a major reason why sineater stays. But if he knows
the family is prepared to help him with the animals, I think he'd be
more willing to allow himself to leave.
evile: When he was wanting to beat himself up over his 'memory
problems' and how terrible he is to 'keep Skye up all night arguing',
I just kept telling him he has family and people who love him, and I
hope that helped.
Sharjinka: I don't consider the type to stay up all night just to
argue. I just think she takes advantage of his memory problems and
blames him for everything. It's so sad.
Sharjinka: consider sineater the type...
evile: I don't think he HAS memory problems.
evile: I think she keeps telling him what she wants him to believe
until he remembers doing/saying whatever it was.
Sharjinka: Yeah, that's kind of what I meant. She takes advantage
until he believes it.
evile: He is not in a place where he can hear that, so I didn't say
it. I did ask him why, if a whole group of people all believe A
happened, and then she says B is what actually happened, why he
always believes B.
Sharjinka: What did he say?
evile: His answer was something like that if everyone believes A
happened, she goes and "talks to everyone" until they all understand
that B is what really happened.
Sharjinka: What if they don't believe her?
Sharjinka: What if that's not how it happened?
evile: apparently that never happens.
Sharjinka: Apparently. *sigh*
evile: In my experience, that's when she snaps "Come on sineater, WE're
leaving!!" and never hangs out with those people again
evile: (that's what happened with the poly group last time she showed
up)
Sharjinka: Oh.... *sigh* I can believe it. I have noticed she
never leaves me alone long enough with sineater to actually talk. We've
had one or two real conversations but she's interrupted and they left
shortly thereafter.
evile: *nod* She doesn't want him to feel like he he has anyone on
his side.
Sharjinka: I don't think I understand that.
Sharjinka: *sigh*
evile: well, she's sick & crazy, so it's good that we don't
understand her too deeply.
Sharjinka: I wish there was something more I could do than just watch.
evile: me too...but it's got to be sineater's choice and his action that
starts everything off.
Sharjinka: *sigh* I don't think I could stand an unhealthy
relationship for as long as he has.
evile: nope, me neither.
Sharjinka: I have been involved in some bad relationships. Not so
much abuse as neglect and taken for granted type of thing.
evile: *nod* both partners have to work on making sure the other
knows they are appreciated.
Sharjinka: I think the longest I could do that was six months and I'm
still bitter about that half year gone trying to make it work. :-D
I vent every few months about that.
evile: yup. When sineater finally gets some distance, I imagine it will
take him a long time (and professional help) to finish venting.
Sharjinka: I'm not used to all the attention JG has been giving me
lately, but I could get used to it!!
Sharjinka: Yeah....professional help may be needed.
evile: I'm so glad to hear that. You are a good person, you deserve
to have a sweet boyfriend who appreciates you and lets you know how
much he does.
Sharjinka: Yep, it has been great. :-) I'm so glad we found each
other (again). :-D
evile: me too!!!
Sharjinka: I just wish sineater would get away and look at it from a
distant perspective.
evile: He does need distance and time to begin healing. I hope he
gets them soon.
Sharjinka: I hope so too.
Sharjinka: I know this sounds terrible but I think Skye has her eye
on [Keject] and it REALLY worries me.
evile: *nod* you noticed that, too?
Sharjinka: Oh, yes. The boy is oblivious. And I think she's
attracted to his vulnerability.
evile: Isn't he with Jubilee?
Sharjinka: We are going to have a conflict if it comes to that
though. Yes, he is.
Sharjinka: And for some reason he's adopted me as an older person he
trusts.
evile: Hopefully Jubilee will be enough to keep him out of skye_ds's
hands.
evile: I mean, she's more his age, she's gorgeous and sweet...a much
better catch than a 34 year old woman, I would think...
Sharjinka: I hope so too. I don't want to enter a conflict....but I
will. And Jubilee trusts and loves Skye. I feel sick when I see
that.....
Sharjinka: Jubilee is a catch. ;-) A bit unstable but young and
that will work itself out as she matures.
evile: Well, they're all adults. Hopefully Jubilee's friendship will
be a good influence on skye_ds...
Sharjinka: I hope so but if you noticed and I did too....than I'm
still worried. I was hoping I was just seeing things and being
overly protective of [Keject].
evile: You are more plugged in to the HFS role play than I am--watch
out for her character going for his character. From waht I
understand, that's how she got sonar0m.
Sharjinka: I plan to. *sigh* [Keject] has already written RP going
after Jubilee's character so maybe that will slow her down or stop it.
evile: *nod* I know you'll do what you can, but when all is said &
done, they're all adults & make their own choices in life, as bad as
those choices may seem from the outside point of view...
Sharjinka: Yes, that's true. When [Keject] and Jubilee talk about how
much they love and trust Skye, I really have to bite my tongue. Part
of me just wants to warn them.....
evile: that would just put them against you.
evile: Her pattern, with sineater, kaleon, and sonar0m, was to get her
claws in when they were young, virginal college freshmen.
evile: having a hard time fitting in to college life, not very strong
in their self-esteem, etc.
Sharjinka: Yes, I know. I'm not saying anything but it burns me not
to.
evile: If [Keject] can be made to feel like he fits in, has the approval
of many others, feel good about himself, etc. then the odds of him
falling to skye_ds are much less. Having a cute girlfriend will
definitely be helpful...I hate to say it, but EXPECIALLY if she is
sexually active.
Sharjinka: She is but he's not. :-)
Sharjinka: I think he's waiting for marriage.
evile: OK. But if he knows that she's there if he wants to play, that
will help. I think a lot of skye_ds's 'attraction' to men is that she
portrays herself as being very sexually available, adventurous,
willing to do things that other girls had not allowed the guy to do.
evile: (this topic disgusts me if I think too hard about it,
BTW....her nekkid...buh.)
Sharjinka: Please.....ACK!!!!
evile: WEll, it's the only thing I can think of. She's fat, old,
smells bad..so she must be fantastic in bed, right?
Sharjinka: I think he likes the virginal vulnerable and that makes me
sick. And [Keject] has talked to me about his ....uhm....virginess....
He's kind of at a clumsy and awkward age.
Sharjinka: I don't want to even think about it.
evile: I know she's attracted to that. For that matter, so am I, but
the difference is I am a decent human being and not a sexual predator.
evile: I don't mind flirting with cute young things and making them
blush, but I would NEVER EVER cross that line.
Sharjinka: I know. I was flattered when he was talking in such a
straightforward way about it. I was ....kind of turned on by the
whole thing but I told him the right person would come along and it
would be great. (He wasn't with Jubilee yet. He was just telling me
that I was a good friend and he was not....experienced in intimate
relationships.)
Sharjinka: I think he was looking for advice and I didn't know what
to say.
evile: *nod* He needs people like you to help him explore that side
of himself without violating him.
Sharjinka: It was then I think I got very protective of him because I
realized he could be taken advantage of so easily. That's why the
whole thing with Skye scares me so much.
evile: *nod* Me too!
evile: Just do what you can to keep her from cutting him off from his
support system, make sure he spends time with other people besides
her, etc.
Sharjinka: I plan to. I was worried that Jubilee and [Keject] went to
the SCA event with Skye.....
evile: and definitely model appropriate couple behavior for him--
being able to compare the way you and JG interact, vs. the way she
treats sineater and sonar0m, will help [Keject] realize what's normal and
desirable.
evile: I was worried about that too...I really hope that trip opens a
lot of eyes.
Sharjinka: I hope so. Jubilee and [Keject] hang out with sineater and Skye
more than they do with me and JG.
Sharjinka: It might. I hope it does.
evile: well, and that's because you and JG are not looking for
a 'harem' or a 'fan club' the way she is...
evile: But just do waht you can to keep him from getting isolated.
Encourage other HFS people to spend time with him as well.
evile: he's at Baylor, right?
Sharjinka: I tell ya....before JG and I were serious....I had some
difficult temptations.
evile: See if you can get Jose to take care of him while he's up at
school...
Sharjinka: Yes, at Baylor.
Sharjinka: I might.
evile: And any other Baylor HFS ers you know, too.
Sharjinka: Prophet and Xavier lost their girlfriends at the same time.
They flirted HEAVILY with me.
evile: Direct confrontations that make him choose between
his "friend" skye and his other friends will NOT work.
Sharjinka: Now...I miss them but this is better for them and me. JG
and I are now serioust too.
evile: Attacking Skye, will NOT work.
evile: Xavier's girl is adorable.
Sharjinka: I'm glad she came back to him.....but I miss him, I
admit.
Sharjinka: I feel dirty for liking Xavier.... *sigh* I'm SO glad
she came back.
evile: *nod* he's gorgeous, that's for sure. I can definitely see why
HFS is a happy hunting ground for sexual predators.
Sharjinka: Yes, exactly. I could be one, I think. But I'm hoping I
never have been.
Sharjinka: Taking advantage of young men.....is not something I could
face in myself. I already have trouble looking in the mirror. I
don't want to add more to it.
evile: I think you handle yourself with a great deal of honor.
Sharjinka: When I get flirted with....DAMN..... Xavier sat in my lap
once and I almost died. ;-)
Sharjinka: (while his girlfriend was gone and they were broken up)
Sharjinka: I had to REALLY restrain myself.
Sharjinka: *sigh* Temptation is very difficult.
evile: *nod* yeah...damn.
Sharjinka: Not an ounce of fat on that boy and uhm....very nice....
We were all drinking together and he was missing his girlfriend and
missing flirting with women. *sigh*
Sharjinka: Honor gets TESTED!!!! DAMN.... :-D
Sharjinka: I kept thinking of JG and that really helped.
evile: *nodnod* I bet!
Sharjinka: *sigh* Like I said, GLAD his girlfriend came back.
evile: I bet. Some things are just TOO tempting :)
Sharjinka: He was flirtiaous AND asking me if anything was wrong with
him when his girlfriend left him.
Sharjinka: I kept saying "there's nothing wrong with you,
Sherwin....you're a tissue - strong and sensitive." And then he'd
flirt with me more. *sigh*
Sharjinka: Sometimes I miss that tremendously but I wouldn't change
how things are now.
Sharjinka: He made me feel ....like the type that could be flirted
with and it made me feel attractive. It was....I admit....a real
test.
evile: yeah. Flirting can be fun--a real ego-boost. As long as
everyone understands it goes only so far and no farther!
Sharjinka: Yeah....but DAMN!!!
Sharjinka: *whew* What a test!!
evile: Sometimes makes my teeth hurt....but when you have a boyfriend
at home, there are things you can do with all that sexual tension.
Sharjinka: Very true and I did. :-D
evile: win-win :)
Sharjinka: Yep, but I do miss the flirting once in a while and then I
feel like I should be smacked or something.
Sharjinka: Hormones!
evile: I am glad I have friends I can flirt with harmlessly :)
Sharjinka: I think I've always been on the edge with that but I'm
getting better about it.
evile: With the combination of the poly group and GWNN, I have lots
of flirty fun.
Sharjinka: Sounds like it!
evile: I have such a cool sweetie :)
Sharjinka: Yes, he is!
evile: I had to get a guy who would trust me 100% and since I have
him, I never get tempted to cheat or do anything to violate that
trust.
Sharjinka: I can understand that.
evile: When I have dated jealous types, I always ended up doing
something to cheat on them...just because I didn't like being treated
like I was untrustworthy.
Sharjinka: :-)
Sharjinka: That's also understandable.
evile: I really lucked out :)
Sharjinka: Very true. :-)
evile: We both work on the relationship & that's why it's good :)
Sharjinka: Yep, yep. I'm still working on mine but since we're both
working on the relationship, it's very good. :-D
evile: both people have to work on it. One of the things that raised
a huge red flag for me was when sineater told me that skye_ds has 'fixed'
herself and why can't he fix himself....indicating she isn't working
on her end of things at all, expecting him to change to fit whatever
she wants him to be.
evile: it just doesn't WORK that way, ya know? people grow and change
and the relationship has to grow and change too.
Sharjinka: Exactly. *sigh* I feel so sad for sineater. It's just not
healthy.
evile: nope. And I guess he didn't have enough normal healthy
relationships to observe growing up, so that's why he thinks this is
acceptable. (Also, to be fair, it was NOT this bad at the begining)
Sharjinka: *sigh* There's a lot of history here that I don't
understand, I'm sure.
evile: *nod* me too. Abusive relationships are always full of secrets.
Sharjinka: *sigh*
Sharjinka: How was your steak and BJ day?? ;-)
evile: hey, I got a new dishwasher out of it, how do you think it
went? ;P
Sharjinka: WOW!!! You're awesome. :-D
evile: yeah, I'm a Goddess. :P
Sharjinka: Wow. I'm a pleb. ;-)
evile: Nah, you're a Goddess, too :)
evile: Maybe more of an Athena/Artemis whereas I'm more of a Demeter
type :)
Sharjinka: Nah. Took a while. He was TENSE!
Sharjinka: I've always loved Athena since junior high. I kept
wishing she existed because I would definitely WORSHIP her! ;-)
evile: *nod* metoo!!! (taking a while is not necessarily a bad thing,
IMHO.)
Sharjinka: :-)
evile: when you've been together a while you figure out where
everything is and things can get kind of quick. Not necessarily a bad
thing, but sometimes it is nice to enjoy the journey as much as the
destination, so to speak...
Sharjinka: Yes....that's true. He just had trouble relaxing last
night. ;-) Work stress....
evile: *nod* There are days (once again, after you've been togethr a
while) when a nice long backrub is more welcome than any other form
of bedroom recreation :)
Sharjinka: Yeah...I've had a few days of that.....
evile: It's so nice to have a sweetie who will rub on you when you're
feeling tense.
Sharjinka: Yep, that is most definitely true.
Sharjinka: Prophet kept asking me if it was true with sonar0m. Even
after the party. *sigh* He just doesn't want to believe it.
evile: it's not a pretty mental picture, that's for sure...
evile: I'm thinking of inviting him and Eric B. over for full moon in
my backyard, inviting a couple of girlfriends over, see what happens.
Is that wrong of me?
Sharjinka: No, I don't think so. I'm sure Prophet....will manage. :-
) Can I be there to observe young primate behavior? ;-)
evile: absolutely. You and JG are both invited. I guess I should send
out evites or something :P
Sharjinka: :-) Cool! Thank you!!
evile: It should be fun, anyway, even if no romantic sparks get
started
Sharjinka: Very true.
evile: Hey, who can NOT have fun with fire and marshmallows, right?
Sharjinka: Yum!!!
evile: *nod* I think so.
Sharjinka: :-D
evile: I love evite.com, but then I forget about it...
Sharjinka: It is cool. I've gotten e-vites but I don't think I've
ever used it.
evile: I have. It's kind of annoying in that it's so dang easy for
people to reply and RSVP, and then they STILL don't.
Sharjinka: Yeah. Our group seems bad about that.
evile: ALL the groups I know seem bad about that. I don't know if
they were raised by wolves or what...
Sharjinka: ARWOOOO!!!!!!
Sharjinka: You should try to nag them into writing RP. Whah. Even
talented writers in our group have to be nagged.
evile: *grinz*
Sharjinka: :-)
evile: I can see how you'd get busy and not find time to write, but
with evite, how hard is it to click?
Sharjinka: Very true.
evile: I just realized that's Easter Weekend. I hope people can make
it. Oh well, I know I'll be there, that's the important part
Sharjinka: :-) I might be with my family. My Mom called this
morning and asked. Sorry. Didn't realize.
Sharjinka: I'll see you tonight at skating. Bye.
evile: well, I'll get my evite done up & send it out, and if you can
come, great, if not, no prob. OK!
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