I slept better last night--turned down the thermostat so it dosn't
get up to 78 degrees at 4am and make the rest of my sleep all
sweltering and tossing & turning. I was dreaming when the alarm went
off. Something about going to a party at Rhonnies, with Rio and Dee
in my car, parking in an underground parking garage & Rhonnie's apt
was underground, too.
Also something about living in a refurbished warehouse. Tom and I had
mentioned that once.
from diaryland entry for today:
Skate night last night was fun. I should have skated more, but I was
tired (had a giant sinus headache, but it *did* get better as the
night went on) , so went home around 9. Usually I have to stop
skating because something starts to hurt, but last night I felt fine.
Just fatigued in general, but no big muscle aches. Hey! I must be
getting into some better shape! Go me!
Had an interesting conversation about No Kidding membership with Mark
one of the other NK folks. Basically, I guess there's a debate on the
national/international level about whether or not to welcome folks
who are just childfree 'for now' but plan or hope to have children in
the future. On the one hand, couples who are 'trying' or 'planning'
can do as much boring chitchat about their baby plans as the folks
who already have actual offspring (Jimna stands out as a sterling
example of boring-yet-embarassingly-personal breeder conversation) On
the other hand, who's to say that any CF person won't change their
mind, or have an accident and decide to keep it, or whatever?
Personally, I will not ever change my mind (and it isn't really
biologically possible), but I would not condemn someone who had been
childfree for years and then decided to have a baby, adopt, or
accidentally got pregnant and decided to go through with it. Granted,
I probably wouldn't hang out with them much after the sprogging, but
nothing is set in stone. Friendships don't have to end when a friend
has a baby, it's just that it's harder to spend time, and the person
with the baby doesn't have as much time, energy or $ to spend on
hanging with friends. And forget spontaneity... BUT, the friendship
doesn't have to end. It just takes some extra effort go keep it going.
I guess that was Mark's main point in favor of not allowing 'future
parents' in. It does suck to invest a lot of time and energy into a
relationship and then to get ditched when it's time to breed. But if
the friendship is worth keeping, it's worth the effort to stay close.
Not much different, really, than maintaining friendships when friends
move away, get more demanding jobs, or start dating/get married, or
otherwise have new people/obligations in their lives.
Honestly, I wouldn't even close the NK doors on someone who had grown
children (that one lady at Hoover's who is married to the brit--I got
the impression that she had a child and was now married to brit who
was childfree. She said something about 'my daughter' bla bla. But it
wasn't endless one upping superior type conversation, like X gets
into) or who was a noncustodial parent, or who, like my friend
Donna, got pregnant under bad circumstances when very young and gave
it up for adoption. She is most definitely childfree. Though many
sticklers would say 'No, she's not welcome'. How ugly is THAT?
All I want from the Austin "No Kidding" group is a bunch of people I
can spend time with doing adult-oriented things (nice restaurants, R
rated movies, nightlife type things), to have mature conversation
uninterrupted by squalling or hissy fits, to hang out with people who
won't have to leave in the midle of dinner or a movie or a party
because junior threw up or is having a tantrum. With No Kidding, I
get to meet new people, try new restaurants, clubs, bars, cafes, etc,
and just get out of the house and spend time with a good crowd of
diverse folks.
There's a guy, Steve, who has attended a couple of No Kidding events
who I would personally not make welcome. He seems to think that No
Kidding is a good place to meet women who don't have kids, so that he
can meet one and knock her up with one of his own. I suppose that
once you get to a certain age, it is hard to meet other adults who
are unencumbered by baggage from past relationships, including
children from first marriages, etc. But that attitude seems kind of
rude and tacky to me. Not to mention a little dishonest. If I was
single & started dating a member of my childfree group, and then all
of the sudden he was all like "Let's get married and have babies!"
I'd be offended.
So, on this 'issue' I guess I weigh in on the side of the more-
inclusive folks. As long as there are no children actually present at
the No Kidding table, and no conversation about poopsie-bear's latest
diaper contents, I'm fine.
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Taurus
Horoscope (by astrocenter.com)
Perhaps you have noticed that you are not in the position you deserve
to be at work. If you were counting on doing something about this
situation today dear Taurus, there could be a great deal of tension
all around you. You are a competent, productive person, and people
have started to notice you. It seems that nothing could stop you. But
be very careful of those who may be jealous of your success. You need
a plan, fast!
Gemini
Horoscope (by astrocenter.com)
You have a kind of habit of juggling with the events in your life, as
if they were inanimate objects, and usually things turn out just
fine! Yet, today, the things you have to deal with are a bit too
heavy to juggle with! You generally don't like this kind of
situation, but it is time to make some important decisions in your
life, dear Gemini. It's time to choose a direction. Today is crucial
for these kinds of decisions, so don't try and avoid doing what you
have to do.
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Feh on these horoscopes. They may be true, but they distress me.
I got Haagen dazs ice cream last nite at the grocery store--22 g
carbs per serving. So I had half a serving right before bed and that
was just lovely. With a rich ice cream like Haagen Dazs chocolate,
the 1/4 cup was just perfect.
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