dude. wait, whut?

[evile]

Someone who is a friend of mine and also a friend of my SIL skye_ds sent me what appears to be a cut and paste from "Skye"s facebook status. the message reads as follows:


Andrea 'Skye' Drake Stephan They're lucky I stopped with just Separated. Either of them so much as thinks about breathing in the direction of pushing me further, and it will be Single.

just thought you should know that she is basicly dumping eric and marcus dunno how long it will last she does this often but for some reason think this time its for real


So...first thought: BREATHE, BREATHE LITTLE MAN!!!!!

second: does she actually think that changing your Facebook relationship status is some sort of legally-binding action?

and third: the person who forwarded me this is the same person who told me I was a bad person for getting "skye" kicked out of the steampunk community [which I didn't actually do], because "skye" was just trying to help Pioneer Farms [whatever.]! and also bitched at me for telling her about the Sherwood Faire clusterfluff in which someone didn't get invited to the Sherwood celtic fest, threw a passive agressive hissy fit in order to get invited, and so apparently to get back at the hosts and other invited guests, extended an invitation to "skye." And what I said about that was basically something like "If 'skye' wasn't such a miserable bitch, I'd feel very sorry for her for having such a shitty friend, who is knowingly bringing her to hang out with a group of people who dislike her,"

Annnnyhoo....I am not holding my breath.

Apparently this is a pattern for "Skye", to get mad and throw man or men out, and then to eventually get over it after said man or men has groveled about, posted in their LJ or the Poly Austin Yahoo group, or wherever, about what a terrible person he is for making "Skye" so mad she had to beat him (or whatever), and after some public humiliation [often involving her forcing them to kneel and apologize in front of everyone, from what I've been told by members of her HFS kingdom]...everything will be 'forgiven' {read: she will save this misdeed to throw back in their face another day, but for now they will be permitted to once again live in her home, serve her, feed and care for her animals and vehicles, pay her bills, and enjoy her company. ugh.}

Anyhoo..........whatever whatever. I don't know why the person sent me that info if she doesn't want me talking shit about "skye" to her. I thanked her for the info and left it at that.

Comments

[made-of-paradox.livejournal.com]

People are annoyingly capable of maintaining cognitive dissonance. If you're expecting consistency from that individual, you might want to rethink that expectation.

[sheilagh.livejournal.com]

perhaps better would be asking the one from steampunk who bitched at you for "being mean" to skye to, her/himself, learn to respect boundaries. THAT person is causing drama, in the Drama Triangle sense (http://www.ta-tutor.com/!dratri/xdrallp.htm) .. they're engaging you in the cycle, which can only be broken out of by people building inner strength in the durable triangle (http://www.ta-tutor.com/!durtri/xduallp.htm)

It can suck to not have information, thus twisted sources like that person telling you stuff about skye are very tempting, but it's tainted information, and feeds that person as a power broker. they're rewarded for disrespecting boundaries, and they'll do it in ANY direction, to get that reward again.

[bramblekite.livejournal.com]

*sigh* You're right. I have to be the bigger person and behave in a way that makes me a person I respect. Even though I do love gossip. especially if it involves the possibility of my brother getting away from her...

[bramblekite.livejournal.com]

Ugh. You are so right. I feel like dirt for even responding to her at all. Next time I won't. bleh.

[sheilagh.livejournal.com]

sadly, not-responding may just delay the results, or "encourage" her to try harder to get the emotional "hit" she's seeking. setting a firm but caring boundary is where it's at, in my experience, so that the gossiper learns to not even offer.

unlearning the curiosity about what estranged friends/people are up to is so SO so fucking hard. I've had to wire it into an understanding that that particular kind of curiosity is like rubbernecking, slows me down in the "flow" of my life, leading to other bumps ... so I have to note the curiousity pull, acknowledge it because curiosity is valuable in many OTHER contexts, and then keep moving, lest I get sucked into the whirlpool of Charybdis. Very much a Ulysses bound to the mast, keep the ship MOVING guys, do NOT obey any orders I may give to slow down & crash into the rocks... kind of feeling.

[sheilagh.livejournal.com]

also, my brain keeps re-formatting your journal name to:

¡Elive!

[bramblekite.livejournal.com]

yeah. :/