October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

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While you SCREAM at your partner, there's someone wishing they could whisper softly in his or her ear.

While you HUMILIATE, OFFEND and INSULT your SO, there's someone flirting with him or her and reminding him or her how beautiful s/he is.

While you HURT your partner, there's someone wishing they could take his/her pain away...

While you make your spouse CRY, there's someone stealing his or her smiles.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

Domestic violence is not just a man=abuser, woman=victim issue. Love doesn't hurt.

You May Think Domestic Violence Has Nothing to Do with You

Characteristics of a Toxic Relationship

Heart 2 Heart,A kind and loving resource for abused men

Escape Abuse

menweb.org

How to keep someone with you forever

Comments

[made-of-paradox.livejournal.com]

The second link has an extra character at the end. You may want to edit it.

[made-of-paradox.livejournal.com]

Thanks for posting all of those.

[longshot14.livejournal.com]

One problem I've always seemed to have with websites devoted to battered men's resources is the level of resentment often displayed toward the attention given to battered women's resources. I really want there to be resources devoted to battered men, because there really are different issues at stake. But that's no reason to be resentful of the attention given to battered women's resources. The resentment displayed often detracts from the message, and in some cases could actually be infectious.

An example from the heart-2-heart site:

At times it seems that some shelters and women's centers use the female victims of domestic violence to gain the political and monetary power they need to help these women, but to also influence law enforcement, the judicial system, legislators and the community at large with their gender feminist victimology and their one sided sexist representation of domestic violence. In other words, some of them may be using domestic violence shelters and centers as a vehicle to further their gender feminist dogma and beliefs.

I've *worked* in the office of a group running a battered women's shelter. This was in no way my experience.

[bramblekite.livejournal.com]

yeah...it is frustrating, all the way around. And then you can go further into confronting the underlying assumptions and resentments in the abuse outreach business by listening for the voices of gay and lesbian abuse resources... *crickets chirp*

I know that Safe place offers help for male abuse victims...but most, if not all, of their web content, flyers, and other literature keeps on pushing the hetero mono man=abuser, woman=victim schtick. I dont want to be angry or hateful toward anyone, certainly not an organization that is trying so hard to do good, and largely succeeding, but I do get frustrated and angry and disappointed.