But the fact is, you *do* deal with things from a more-or-less positive frame of mind...I mean, you're not stupid. You keep your wits about you and do what you need to do to feel safe, but you don't let other people keep you from being yourself and doing the best job of being you as you can...
You don't say "I can't talk to that guy because he's kinky." or "I can't talk to that girl becasue she's straight" or whatever...You are who you are, and I think you're pretty open to others even if they don't share all of your beliefs and practices, you don't cut people out completely or put demands on them to behave a certain way just because that's how YOU choose to behave.
I dont' think it's wrong to be cautious or reserved in dealing with new people...I just think it's best to be in charge of who and what YOU are and not worry too much about who and what other people are...unless, of course, they show themselves to be toxic! In which case, that still shouldn't stop you from being YOU, but just encourage you to go be you somewhere far from THEM!
Maybe I'm just going round in circles here...I see the point I'm trying to get to, but can't get there from here :P
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Date: 2008-06-19 05:42 pm (UTC)You don't say "I can't talk to that guy because he's kinky." or "I can't talk to that girl becasue she's straight" or whatever...You are who you are, and I think you're pretty open to others even if they don't share all of your beliefs and practices, you don't cut people out completely or put demands on them to behave a certain way just because that's how YOU choose to behave.
I dont' think it's wrong to be cautious or reserved in dealing with new people...I just think it's best to be in charge of who and what YOU are and not worry too much about who and what other people are...unless, of course, they show themselves to be toxic! In which case, that still shouldn't stop you from being YOU, but just encourage you to go be you somewhere far from THEM!
Maybe I'm just going round in circles here...I see the point I'm trying to get to, but can't get there from here :P