I dont' think I have much familiarity with the 3rd version of "I'm sorry". If my ex had ever bothered to say it, that's probably the kind of "sorry" he would have said & meant, so in hindsight, I'm glad he never said it.
I guess there is a difference between "I SAID I'm sorry, now forgive me and we'll pretend it never happened, and I'll fuck you over again as soon as I get a chance,"
and "I'm sorry, here are words and actions to follow up on that and show I regret my actions and I'm trying to do better,"
but maybe there's not as big a distinction betwene those 2 types of 'sorry', or maybe it's totally subjective, and if you've broken trust in the first place, why should the person you're apologizing to trust you to actually be following through with efforts to do better, rather than following through with efforts to fuck them over good and proper next time?
Because IME, one of the 2 people I hate without apology HAS apologized, or attempted to, many times, and for all I know they're actually reformed...but I've been fucked over enough times that I don't really care if they're sincere or just crying another round of Crocodile Tears in order to suck me in and get what they want from me...I don't trust them, they're out of chances, it's not fixable, The End.
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Date: 2008-05-07 06:01 pm (UTC)I guess there is a difference between "I SAID I'm sorry, now forgive me and we'll pretend it never happened, and I'll fuck you over again as soon as I get a chance,"
and "I'm sorry, here are words and actions to follow up on that and show I regret my actions and I'm trying to do better,"
but maybe there's not as big a distinction betwene those 2 types of 'sorry', or maybe it's totally subjective, and if you've broken trust in the first place, why should the person you're apologizing to trust you to actually be following through with efforts to do better, rather than following through with efforts to fuck them over good and proper next time?
Because IME, one of the 2 people I hate without apology HAS apologized, or attempted to, many times, and for all I know they're actually reformed...but I've been fucked over enough times that I don't really care if they're sincere or just crying another round of Crocodile Tears in order to suck me in and get what they want from me...I don't trust them, they're out of chances, it's not fixable, The End.
*sigh*