3262Re: bullshit w/sineater re: 'snarking'/'egging on', I suspect.

[evile]

Jun. 6, 2005

 

 

Subject: Yo!
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 12:36:11 -0500
From: sineater
To:  evile

Thank you,

sineater
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Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 10:38:13 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE
Subject: Re: Yo!
To: sineater


Short, sweet & to the point, eh?

You're welcome :)

As always when a gathering exceeds a certain size, I
don't feel like I got to visit enough with everyone,
but I hope you had a nice time.

Love ya, bro!
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Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 12:39:03 -0500
From: sineater



Had a good time, though sounds like I missed the fun stuff ;)
Had a question for you, not sure how to ask it though

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Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 10:42:11 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE
Subject: RE: Yo!
To:  sineater


I figured something was up; you don't usually write or
call just to say hi. :P

Ask away; I reserve the right to say no and/or
respectfully decline to answer, as any thinking adult
is free to do. :)

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Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 13:43:31 -050

From: Sineater


Well of course, turkey-butt. :P
Have I done anything to piss ladydreamtime or Niki off? (Or did I just
have really bad BO yesterday? *snf snf*)

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Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 11:51:24 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE H"


Is there a specific incident you are referring to, or
some general 'vibe' you just picked up out of the
ether?

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Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 13:52:38 -0500
From: sineater


Nah just a vibe I guess
*bzzzzzz*
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Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 13:54:21 -0500
From: Sineater



I'm just paranoid :(

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Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 11:55:51 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE H"
Subject: RE: Yo!


FWIW:

Ladydreamtime is not very touchy-feely with anyone, she
doesn't often show up to things alone or sit and visit
for very long, and she's not inclined to sit and
listen to anyone go on about things that don't
interest her for any length of time. She likes BDSM
and Musicals and Theatre, and that's what she'll talk
about at length, and not much else. That's just her
way, so if that's the way she treated you, that's the
way she is.

Nikiyoy     may have been acting protectively towards onyxlynxx.
I noticed that you were being a little handsy with
onyxlynxx, and onyxlynxx didn't seem 100% comfy. But I don't
know if she was uncomfy with YOU, or because it was a
larger crowd than she's used to, or what. Since onyxlynxx
didn't actually SAY anything, I didn't take any
action, but Nikiyoy is a bit more sensitive about such
things due to her own experiences and may have been
acting from that.

Hope that helps.

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Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 14:04:32 -0500
From: Sineater


Ah ok. Glad to know I didn't smell bad... I'm sorry if I made onyxlynxx
uncomfortable. I know she's going through some rough shit, guess I was
overcomforting. I will extend apologies. Nikiyoy didn't seem so much
protective as just crabby. I wanted to ask who peed in her Post
Toasties, then thoguht better of it. And sorry, didn't realize I was
being too touchy feely. Everybody was hugging me... Especially the
men.
Umm... K...

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Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 12:34:13 -0700 (PDT)
From: evile


eh, I didn't say you didn't stink--I just mentioned
other possibilities! :P

It's always interesting when I think I had a
successful gathering and we all had fun and it turns
out that wasn't the case at all. Oh well. That'll
learn me.

Love ya, bro.

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Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 14:48:23 -0500
From: sineater


Ey wasn't a major thing, and I did have fun, overall. Niki seemed
kinda
crabby, but hey, not my problem. There's freaks and there's freaks. ;P
Teh food was yummy. Thoguht that little green guy on the end was cool,
and got along pretty well with everyone else (or so it seems to me,
phbbbbt) Wish I'd been able to stay later. Pesky job, why won't they
pay
me to sleep or something? ;)

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Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 13:11:14 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE 


I'm glad you 'mostly' had a fun time, anyway.

Thanks for coming out :)

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Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 15:28:15 -0500
From sineater


Hey, don't be bummed, please. I'm not complaining and I had a good
time.
It's good to get together and laugh and have a good time and shit. I
enjoyed talking to you and watching you whip people with a rubber bat!

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Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 13:32:19 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE 


Nope, not bummed. I've decided that I had a fun time,
and since it was my party and my house, that's the
important part.

I just wish I could get together with people without
some of them deciding the next day that they were
being attacked, or whatever.

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Date: Wed, 25 May 2005 07:01:52 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE

Got your phone message. I was very tired & went to bed
very early, was not in the mood to get my ass handed
to me on a plate before I did so, so I did not call
you.

I am really not sure what there is to 'fight' about or
'work out'

The only "this" that I am aware of is that Monday
night apparently you was offended by one or more of my
friends. I'm sorry that happened, I wanted everyone to
have a pleasant time. However, I don't control your or
my friends' thoughts or feelings, not everyone in this
world is going to get along with everyone else. Them's
the breaks.

If someone offends you, it's up to you to say,
immediately and directly, TO the offending party:
"hey, that's offensive", "hey, let's agree to disagree
and change the subject", or LEAVE. I am not going to
force people together who don't get along, we do
enough of that at Family gatherings.

If you have a problem with me, you have yet to
identify what exactly *I* said or did to make *you*
upset. If there is something I did or said, I am not
aware of it. Please make me aware of it.

If this is about Nikiyoy or Ladydreamtime, I cannot and will not
attempt to control my friends actions or behaviors.
That is not my problem or my responsibility.

I'm sorry if you had a bad time, it was really not my
intention to gather a bunch of people together, spend
a lot of time and $ cooking and cleaning and preparing
for their visit, just to make them all miserable.

Love you, bro.

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Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Wed, 25 May 2005 09:11:49 -0500
From sineater


Hey, whoa, hold on. I had no problem there.
I called because I want to know what happened with Skye_ds yesterday
afternoon. We don't have to talk about it now, and as I said, I don't
want to fight about it or "hand you your ass".
When I emailed you yesterday I was not offended by anyone, I was
worried
that I had offended somebody else, because I do that. I had a really
good time and just got worried I had bugged some other people. That
was
all. I didn't know you and Skye_ds were having problems until I got
home.
Let's not worry about this right now. Go on your vacation, have some
fun, take it easy.
I love you, and I don't want to make your life difficult. I think
we're
petting the sweaty things, here.

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Date: Wed, 25 May 2005 07:42:19 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE H" 


I've told you before, and I'll tell you again:

If Skye_ds has a problem with me, then it is up to
Skye_ds to approach me and work things out.

I will not have you in the middle of yet another
'disagreement' with the two of us. And, truthfully, I
have NO clue why she's upset at me. So if she has a
problem with something *I* did or said, she needs to
let me know, directly.

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Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Wed, 25 May 2005 09:45:20 -0500
From: sineater


Cool. Don't worry about it. Let's let things chill while you're gone,
if
it's worth it we'll worry about it later. Meantime don't worry about
it
now. Me, I'm going to take a nap. --oh wait, I have to answer phones.
:(

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Date: Wed, 25 May 2005 15:12:47 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE


OK

I am probably going to be at Sharjinka's for
craft/whatever night tonight (I'd be leaving hte house
around 7pm, you could try to call me before then,
maybe?) , and probably poly dinner tomorrow, and then
Friday I'm going to San Antonio to hang out with Rio.

But if you wanted to get together to talk 1-on-1
sometime, everything but Friday is negotiable.

Lunch or dinner tomorrow, maybe? Dinner tonight?

Sorry to be getting back with you so late; I was over
at L&B's all day.

Posted the icq convo that seems to have been a problem
in my LJ for you to see; I really don't think I did or
said anything wrong, and unless A. tells me different,
I am going to assume she had something else come up
and needed to go offline.

Love you.

=E

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Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Thu, 26 May 2005 08:52:01 -0500
From:  sineater


Kk. I can call. Lunch tomorrow will probably be doable as well.
Skye_ds logged off because she had a lot to do and talking to everyone
was distracting her from her job. This week's been pretty ugly for her
at work; Hugh's been in litigation, which he hates, and he gets pretty
nasty over it. Myself, I haven't had time yet to read the entire log
yet
(sorry... LJ times out on my big 28.8 connection at home and here's
been
busy. Hopefully today will be better)
I'm sorry because I didn't want to make a big deal of this. I did just
want to find out what happened in chat that got everybody so snarked
off. Myself, I have a bone to pick with Sharjinka because I disagree
with
her opinion, OPINION, about what is safe and not safe re the horses;
that I'll take up with her myself. Her passive-aggressive behaviour
really pisses me off.
I did have a really good time on Monday. I hope everybody else did
too.

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Date: Tue, 31 May 2005 08:41:51 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE

It was nice to see you Sunday, if ever so briefly.

Love ya, bro.

=E

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Date: Sat, 4 Jun 2005 12:41:34 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE H" 
Subject: No more LJ?
To: sineater


Hey, bro.

I just noticed that your LJ is now deleted.

I figured your hightly secretive nature would only
allow you to exist in the LJ fishbowl for a short
time.

I would like to be in communication, somehow, at
whatever level & in whatever medium is comfortable for
you.

Love ya.

=E

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3273Re: bullshit w/sineater re: 'snarking'/'egging on', I suspect.

[evile]

E
Jun. 7, 2005


Subject: RE: No more LJ?
Date: Tue, 7 Jun 2005 08:06:37 -0500
From: sineater_



?? Ok... Well, didn't realize I had deleted it. :/
Sorry for delay. Monday- busy. Hope your day/week/work-related time
agglomeration is going ok.
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Date: Tue, 7 Jun 2005 12:58:54 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE H"
Subject: RE: No more LJ?
To: sineater_


So far so good.

I went to work Monday and was a little too productive
for my own good--got my quota by 3 and had to look
busy for an hour + some before I got to go home.

Girls night was OK, but a little scattered. Cousin B and I
were the only ones who ended up going to putt putt but
we had a fun time anyway. Turns out Monday is all the
mini golf you can play for 7 bucks! Rock on :)

I felt like crap when I woke up this a.m. nosugarsadded and
onyxlynxx have both had this sore
throat/fever/tired/congestion thing lately and I was
figuring mine was just allergies until I got up today
and felt like such crap. So I stayed home and slept.
Just now woke up. The stuff I'm coughing up has color
to it so that's not a good sign.

Thanks for thinking of me & writing back.

Love ya!

3277Re: bullshit w/sineater re: 'snarking'/'egging on', I suspect.

[evile]

E
Jun. 7, 2005


Date: Tue, 7 Jun 2005 21:24:21 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE
Subject: hey
To: "sineater "


I was sick and asleep most of today, got up this
evening to find that LJ exploded while I wasn't
looking.

I am pretty sure that it will end up somehow being my
fault that Nikiyoy shot off her mouth in your wife's LJ.
I can't stop you from thinking whatever you're going
to think. I'd rather have y'all mad at ME for
something *I* actually did/said, but I can't control
your feelings. If I'm going to be the big bag of poop
in your life no matter what, so be it. I've been
trying my goddammnedest to get along with you and
Andrea. But it doesn't seem to work, y'all always get
mad at me anyway for anything and everything that
doesn't go right if I'm in the general vicinity. I
give up.

Nikiyoy's my friend, but I don't have any control over
her thoughts, feelings, or actions. I did not put her
up to anything.

I am sick. I am leaving for Indiana in a few days,
Uncle Bob is going into surgery in the a.m., I don't
have time or energy to pick fights. It just isn't
worth it to me to fight with you. I love you, I care
about you, I want to be in your life in whatever way
you will allow me to be.

Believe me, the mental image of skye_ds chasing you
with a knife, and the mental image of you choking her,
both horrify me beyond belief and make me incredibly
sick and sad. I just never thought it would do much
good to the relationship to remark on it. You are an
adult, you make your own choices in life, end of
story.

I'm sorry my friends are jerks sometimes. So am I, so
are we all sometimes. Nikiyoy has apologized. You can
choose to accept her apology or not. I hate to see
people I care about in conflict, but that's life. Not
everyone I like is going to like one another.

I love you. I want you to be happy and healthy.
That's all.