evile: Hi :) How was your weekend?
SkyeDS: yesterday afternoon was lovely. I rode around my property,
including the acre or so that is across the creek. How did the
entertaining go?
evile: Very nice. Jeanne & Mark were very low-maintenance guests. I
even got to sneak off for a while on Saturday & do stuff I wanted to
do :)
SkyeDS: awesome :)
SkyeDS: I have court date on Thursday morning because PD decided to
give me a ticket for something that isn't illegal
evile: yuck! When did this happen??
SkyeDS: and then Thursday afternoon the Chamber of Commerce and the
paper are doing a ribbon cutting at the house :)
SkyeDS: last July.
evile: wow...suck (about the ticket). Good about the ribbon cutting.
SkyeDS: and then Friday right after lunch, we have a SOAH hearing
that I get to go to, but it means I have to go to lunch w/ Hugh & the
client.
SkyeDS: but I"m excited about it.
evile: That sounds cool.
SkyeDS: met my neighbor across the creek, and I like him alot. I
invited him to fish on my pond.
evile: cool.
SkyeDS: speaking of guests, have you had [brother A] & Co's company much
lately?
evile: Nope. He is pretty much moved to San Antonio. I think they
might have come up Friday night & stayed at L & B's but I
haven't talked to [aunt L] recently, so I don't know.
SkyeDS: Tanglewood nursery has already budded wisterias for $10, 8
foot tall redbuds for $25 and 5 gal MLs for $20 (and they're closer
than red barn)
evile: cool.
SkyeDS: and they're having a sale first weekend of April, which is
when Karen wants to take me shopping
evile: That will be fun!
SkyeDS: what did you slip off to do Saturday?
evile: Went to Natural Magic's party & Barad-Duin for a bit with
Sunshine.
SkyeDS: sounds like potential for fun, weather permitting
SkyeDS: (the weather is not always the same in Austin as it is at
home, so I don't know what your weather was like here)
evile: It was really nice. Muggy, but not that bad.
SkyeDS: anything or anyone interesting at BD?
evile: Met up with some other friends at NM, which was nice. There is
a big garage sale on the 3rd, which I'd love to do, but it's
Spamarama that day. Oh well.
evile: Kim is back in town, apparently for good.
evile: She is apparently going to try and do damage control on Alex's
term in office.
SkyeDS: Kit (Vallendemir) said she wanted to (when I was at
Shadowmist last)
SkyeDS: lol
evile: And she's with Kit now, romatically, I suppose.
SkyeDS: Kim???
SkyeDS: Kim Green?
SkyeDS: he was "semi dating" Kim Bush
evile: Yup. Kinda unbelievable.
SkyeDS: I can't see Kim Bush (from SA) willing to share with Kim
Green (Terwin's now ex?)
evile: I didn't know he was dating anyone else, or whatever. But Kim
said she and Kit are an item, and everyone else could see it coming
but she never did.
SkyeDS: /me arches an eyebrow well past her hairline
evile: the good news is, with all that NRE going on and another
person's romantic life to meddle in, Kim will probably be out of your
business for a while, at least.
SkyeDS: I told you about Kim Bush's treatment of Kit at Denny's right?
evile: I don't think so.
SkyeDS: she sat in his lap with his arms around her all night
SkyeDS: then as I was leaving Denny's around 2:30 in the am to come
home
evile: She is a kid.
SkyeDS: she literally hissed at me like a cat
SkyeDS: no shit
SkyeDS: hissed at me
SkyeDS: declared "mine"
SkyeDS: twisted his arm around his back
SkyeDS: and pulled him back into Denny's by his hair.
evile: This is "princess sharheena' or whoever from Live Oak, right?
SkyeDS: right
SkyeDS: Shaheena = Kim Bush....Sylvana = Kim Graves.
evile: She was fairly rude to me when I was there with Rio, Mike &
Jaden. I kinda blew it off as the fact that she's like 17.
SkyeDS: err not Graves, Green.
SkyeDS: I haven't been real motivated to do anything HFS lately
evile: Plus, if she was doing it 'in character' it might have been
just part of her queenie act, so I should not be offended OOC by her
rudeness IC.
SkyeDS: although as I keep telling the officers, we need to start
getting prepared for Eeyore's, like right now
SkyeDS: if you weren't IC she shouldn't have been IC and that would
be no excuse
evile: Yup. That's coming up soon, too.
evile: *shrug* I see the pudgy little bitch maybe twice a year. She
ain't worth my time/energy/breaking a nail.
evile: Kit could do better than either of those choices, IMHO. He's
the pretty kilty boy, right?
SkyeDS: I told Kathleen that BD would make unbelievable amounts of
money if we got permission to sell rides and pictures. (within my 28
foot portable round pen)
SkyeDS: she then refered me to Andy
SkyeDS: who all but blows me off every time I ask when they're having
planning meetings (the Eeyore's people) so I can go with him to get
permission
evile: ecch.
SkyeDS: and I get the feeling he won't even ask if I don't go with
evile: probably.
SkyeDS: and truthfully, some weekend in April the SCA is doing a kids
specific event in Lexington, and we are more than welcome, nay
invited, to be there.
SkyeDS: and I'm getting kind of used to being appreciated.
evile: nice.
SkyeDS: Kim Green (Sylvana) and Kim Bush (Shaheena) have always been
thicker than white on rice
SkyeDS: and they are both possessive and insecure women
SkyeDS: this should be interesting.
evile: *shrug*
evile: Kim isn't playing 'Sylvana' anymore, she has a new character.
she said something about how "Sylvana's still with Terwin"...
SkyeDS: some kids broke into Kelly's house and took all their cds,
video games, DDR and video tapes (and they had HUGE collections of
all)
evile: sucks!!
SkyeDS: it's just easier to keep the two Kims separate in discussion
if you use character names.
evile: You're much nicer than I am.
SkyeDS: how do you figure
evile: I could think of lots of ways to keep them separate in
discussion that are not at all nice.
SkyeDS: LOL
SkyeDS: I want to think I am a nice person but I keep being told that
I have a nasty temper and am not a nice person
SkyeDS: and since I know many people with worse tempers than me, I
don't know what I'm being judged relative to.
evile: Some people seem to take offense at any behavior that
differentiates a woman from a piece of furniture.
evile: Jeanne & Mark are TTC so I had to keep a very serious rein on
my CF/kid-hating tongue this past week. It was harder than I thought.
SkyeDS: I'm sorry, TTC? something something children?
SkyeDS: (I get the context but I'm just curious)
evile: I guess I just never realized how many rotten brats and
clueless breeders there are in the run of daily life & how
judgemental I am of htem. TTC=Trying To Conceive.
SkyeDS: ah
SkyeDS: sineater is good with children
SkyeDS: but he says he doesn't like children
SkyeDS: but everyone else also notices that he's good with children
(despite what he says)
SkyeDS: although technically you don't have to like something to be
good at it (I hate litigation but I'm damned good at it)
evile: I am also good with kids. And if they are at all intelligent,
curious, and obedient to authority, I like them just fine. I just
dont' want to ruin my body, my home, my finances, and my life with
one of my own. If that makes me a child-hater, so be it.
SkyeDS: the people that notice that he's good with kids, have good
kids, and it isn't hard to like them or be good around them.
evile: And people just don't fucking get it and pester you to death
when you say "I like kids, I just dont' want any of my own'...it's
like some endless loop starts playng in their heads "if you like
them, you should have one" bla bla bla.
SkyeDS: preaching to the choir, sister
evile: So I have to short circuit the baby-rabies blather by saying I
HATE THEM
SkyeDS: I'm surprised that since J[sineater's mom] seems to feel like she might
be about to die, that she isn't after me to be a brood mare like
yesterday.
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: she probably is after sineater and he has better sense than to
say boo to me.
SkyeDS: of course she hasnt' got better sense.
evile: nope.
SkyeDS: fact still remains that if you give him a choice of (insert
chore here) or birdsitting
SkyeDS: he'd rather do just about any chore
SkyeDS: such as:
SkyeDS: do you want to deal with the stupids inside the grocery store
SkyeDS: or sit out here with Arthur
SkyeDS: and almost always he'd rather deal with the stupids in the
store
SkyeDS: (of course...the store is air conditioned...)
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: and when we are eating on the road, I sit outside on patio,
and he orders.
SkyeDS: I don't understand why anyone would feel the need to be
so "high pressured sales pitchy"
SkyeDS: I mean, seems to me I would make the observation that you'd
be a good mother if you wanted to be and leave it at that
evile: I like rollercoasters, boats, and horses, but I don't want any
of them at my house.
SkyeDS: although Karen said many times ad nauseum that I should
board, train and teach for money
SkyeDS: and I finally gave in
SkyeDS: but that's different than ad nauseum you should have a baby.
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: and Karen is just like that.
SkyeDS: (just about the horse business though, at least so far)
SkyeDS: she is a character.
SkyeDS: although I love that about her.
evile: If you get stuck boarding a nasty bad tempered horse, you can
always give it back to the owner. If you should happen to have some
ADHD down syndrome, bad-seed mess of an offpsring, you're stuck with
it for life.
SkyeDS: good point
SkyeDS: actually something I put in my boarding agmt too.
SkyeDS: what procedure I will follow if you bring me a problem child.
evile: it's good to have a plan in mind.
SkyeDS: I have to. for the protection of my other boarders.
SkyeDS: besides me of course.
SkyeDS: now -- I have three training rates... per hour, per week and
per month
SkyeDS: and if someone brings me a problem that will take between a
week and a month
SkyeDS: obviously I will need to board the horse
SkyeDS: and obviously I know it's a problemchild
SkyeDS: but that's different, if I have permission AND am being paid
to fix the problem
evile: right.
SkyeDS: I have no clue how long it will take to get Randy's TB to
neck and knee rein.
SkyeDS: racehorses never really get taught to steer, just run in
straight lines and stop.
evile: I guess every animal is different.
SkyeDS: some people would have taken offense to Karen's constant
insistance that I do what I do for money.
SkyeDS: I didn't, but that's just me, but I would if she were
insisting that I be a brood mare.
evile: fine line between meddling & encouraging in some cases.
SkyeDS: Karen is just an emphatic person. About everything.
SkyeDS: nothing lukewarm about her, she's very passionate, and most
people like that, you either love or hate.;
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: and Randy is just a big giant teddybear
evile: those sorts of partnerships are pretty common.
SkyeDS: I told him and Karen that his exwife is going to get a four
foot steel enema from me in addition to whatever damage Karen does to
her, if the circumstance presents itself.
evile: heh
SkyeDS: women are so funny, most of them, in this "you are an enemy
predator after the same prey" bullshit
SkyeDS: Kim Sr and Kim Jr are both like that.
evile: yup. why I have 0 female friends.
SkyeDS: you doo too, you have lots of female friends
evile: well,Okay, 3.
SkyeDS: Dee Dee and Rio and J-Law
SkyeDS: Kim 1 and Kim 2 both consider me a threat, for no reason, and
while Karen knows I have an open marriage, she obviously doesn't
consider me a threat.
SkyeDS: I am happy though if this means that Kim Sr's hooks are out
of Travis.
SkyeDS: I doubt she will be able to manipulate Kit the same way.
evile: no tellin'
SkyeDS: Kit gives me the impression of having a strong enough
backbone.
SkyeDS: although he certainly does get around.
SkyeDS: this makes like the fourth woman in nearly as many months
evile: And this is bad because....?
SkyeDS: it isn't
SkyeDS: unless you happen to be one of the women, and you happen to
be jealous, possessive and insecure
SkyeDS: as I know for a fact three of the four are.
evile: Were I gorgeous young & single, I'd be going thru the HFSers
like bonbons.
evile: with about as much regard for their feelings as if they were
sugar coated with chocolate....
SkyeDS: the only thing that prevents you from doing so is that you
aren't exactly "single" in your own mind.
evile: When you're pretty you can do whatever you want and most
people will let you get away with it.
SkyeDS: I don't know what standard of pretty one has to be to get
away with murder, although I have noticed the same thing
SkyeDS: however, you could certainly cut a swath if you were of a
mind to
evile: There may be an element of 'charm' involved as well.
SkyeDS: attractive and sexy aren't entirely defined by looks
evile: *shrug* I am done with my 'collecting pet boys' days. more
trouble than they're worth. I'd rather spend my money on myself.
SkyeDS: lol collections certainly are resource consuming.
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: am glad I've whittled mine down some (although I think of
them as family, everyone else calls them the collection or the harem)
SkyeDS: which I think is insulting to them
evile: you call sonar0m 'baby'...which is arguably an unkind name.
evile: I figure as long as the terminology isn't actively offending
those involved, who cares what anybody calls it.
SkyeDS: it is said with affection though and he knows that (I also
asked him before I made it a habit)
SkyeDS: as far as offending them
evile: exactly. whereas if anyone ever called me 'baby' or 'momma'
I'd probably blow a rod.
SkyeDS: people who use it in less than kind ways tend to do it around
me
SkyeDS: and not around them
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: or I imagine sineater certainly if not M too would have set them
straight
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: Kit made some remark to my friend Uriah (Hino) at SM
SkyeDS: about being added to the harem
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: and Hino laughed and volunteered.
SkyeDS: and Kit obviously was all in fun
SkyeDS: but women tend to use the terms catlike
evile: *shrug* why I only have 3 female friends...
SkyeDS: I belong to this yahoo group called polyfidelity (a subset of
polyamory)
evile: I'm even finding meow-meows in the poly group, which is fairly
shocking.
SkyeDS: dedicated to the idea that polys can be faithful
SkyeDS: and someone joins the group and says that successful polyfi
relationships are as much luck as hard work
SkyeDS: I haven't repied yet
evile: could be true.
SkyeDS: it aggravates though on some level that anyone would think
any successful relationship had any degree of luck involved.
SkyeDS: I have yet to meet anyone in a successful relationship of any
kind (work, personal, family whatever) that didn't work and work hard
at it
evile: OTOH, I met Sweetie completely by chance, so that
was 'luck' ...the relationship itself is work. but meeting was luck.
SkyeDS: I suppose so
SkyeDS: although I personally believe that there isn't any such thing
as chance, no matter how coincidental things seem to us at the time
evile: It's not like I went to PA with my elephant gun and said "i'm
gonna bag me a man"....
SkyeDS: but I hadn't really considered meeting people to be part of
the success of a relationship
SkyeDS: I was thinking of the relationship as being something that
you did after deliberation upon meeting someone
evile: Ok.
SkyeDS: I think p eople who do take the approach of "I'm going to
take my mangun to wherever and bag me a man" set themselves up for
failure, whether they bag one or not.
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: from context, I surmise that this person is male, and thinks
that it's easier for women to have poly relationships than for men to.
SkyeDS: and someone from Seattle responded that the Seattle group is
almost all women and has very hard time finding men.
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: (you said that someone from austin polys is always wanting
everyone to move to seattle)
evile: Terri Avalon.
evile: She actually wants Austin to do everything just like the
Seattle Poly's do. fuck dat.
SkyeDS: I've heard a lot of comparisons between Ausitn and Seattle
SkyeDS: never having been, I have no clue
SkyeDS: but I would assume we're not twins.
evile: Our Sister City in that state is Portland.
SkyeDS: emulating success is good
evile: BTW, Did you see, This week's poly dinner is at Tuscany
Market :) I'm such a little instigator.
SkyeDS: good for you :)
SkyeDS: I can't instigate for shit
SkyeDS: all I could do would be to go to BD and say, ok, I"m going to
Tuscany for dinner, on my way out.
evile: I just find Terri's adamant insistence on "Austin must be just
like Seattle" to be rather hypocritical, considering that the whole
main thing of Poly is that you dont' have to do things just like
everybody else in order to be happy & fulfilled.
SkyeDS: emulation is not the same as carbon copying
SkyeDS: and carbon copying probably would not be successful
evile: it's just that she keeps bringing it up and everyone else
says "NO" and she will not stop insisting that Seattle is better and
Seattle is right and we should do like they do.
SkyeDS: there are all sorts of traits in all the people I love and
respect and admire, and I can emulate them to the best of my ability,
but I will never be a carbon copy and shouldn't want to be
evile: I imagine that the Austin Poly group may reach some sort of
terminal velocity and split into factions. TerriA's group will do
things like Seattle does, and another bunch will continue to be the
Austin bunch.
evile: (if Terri keeps being unpleasant & pushing the issue, that is.)
SkyeDS: /me nods
evile: Nikiyoy is having a party this weekend. I'm kinda tempted to go,
but not overwhelmingly driven to go.
SkyeDS: I haven't even given thought to what I'm doing
SkyeDS: it's going to be predicated I would bet though on when I can
get Wayne to shred my lowlands
SkyeDS: and on doing a controlled burn across the creek
SkyeDS: so that we can finish fencing
SkyeDS: I have a huge old willow tree :)
evile: cool.
SkyeDS: Terri and Karen make me feel to myself like I am lukewarm and
tepid in comparison. Kind of like salt rather than pepper, or Mary
Poppins ish
evile: *shrugs* You are who you are.
SkyeDS: as if the trash on my side of the creek weren't bad enough,
will have to be hauled away in several truckloads
SkyeDS: we're talking motors and a 14 ft boat size stuff here
evile: ooh, yuck.
SkyeDS: the trash on the other side of the creek is just as bad,
although smaller
SkyeDS: and it is grown over my head
SkyeDS: and not safe to do anything on foot because of the 5 foot
rattlers
evile: wow. That is a lot of work.
SkyeDS: so it will just have to be burned because I can't get a
tractor in there either
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: and I still have to get it rezoned.
evile: That is a hassle. Paperwork/bureaucrazy is slow slow sometimes.
SkyeDS: I went over there on horseback two days running thinking I
would be able to assess the whole thing on horsebacdk where it wasn't
safe to walk.
SkyeDS: but the girls didn't like it, not even with their trail
training, and I chose t o respect that.
evile: good.
SkyeDS: they didn't refuse, they were scared.
evile: I'd rather be snakebit myself than have one of my babies bit.
SkyeDS: and if they were honestly scared and not just being spooky as
an excuse to refuse, there had to be good reason.
evile: right.
SkyeDS: related no d oubt to being swampy and overgrown
SkyeDS: but I think when we get rid of the overgrown, assess the
swampiness, we're going to have something good.
SkyeDS: wild onions down there, smell strong enough some days to make
you cry
evile: yup
evile: brb, potty break
