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2139Yahoo messenger from X
Apr. 23, 2004
Me to J-Law:
Oh, speaking of drama queens, I got a yahoo messenger
message from X saying "the children would like
to see you. do u have any interest? i can have a
friend bring tgem to meet with you."
I JUST, literally, last night, had a dream about
meeting up with the kids. It was a horrible nightmare.
They were living in a car, thin and hungry and
dirty...I woke up feeling AWFUL. ANd then she sends me
this. I am tempted...but what do I do if I find that
the kids are being starved/abused/neglected?
Kidnapping or calling CPS are my only options, and
neither is good!
no subject
Apr. 23, 2004
J-Law:
As for the kids - the risk is that X will do a bait and switch,
i.e., promise to have a friend bring them, and then she brings them
herself with some BS excuse that her soi-disant friend flaked out.
Could even be that she shows up sans kids, and this was just a ploy
to meet you face to face. After all - why is this suddenly coming up
now? Out of nowhere? Have the kids not asked about you before?
or ??
CPS is better than kidnapping. Kidnapping you could be criminally
prosecuted, as well as civilly liable for interfering with X's
parental rights. And then you would never be rid of her, because
you'd have all this litigation together. Not to mention all the
effort that goes into a successful kidnapping. Better to call CPS
and be done with the whole mess of 'em.
Trippy about the dream.... but don't let it get you worrying about
stuff that may not be the case. X is a bad person, to be sure,
and she certainly hasn't done a bang-up job raising those kids....
but I doubt she is abusing them.
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ME:
Man...I hadn't even thought of all the possibilities
of what could go wrong if I agreed to see the kids.
You are way ahead of me on all that, and probably VERY
right. :(
I know Mike V was pissed at me for not being around
for Cora when Mike & X went to jail & she was stuck
with the kids, but maybe I could call him or email him
and check with him on how the kids are doing... or I
could be really cowardly & ask my mom if she's heard
anything, since she said she was going to try nd stay
in touch with the kids through Cora. Hm.
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J-Law:
The sticky wicket about seeing the kids is that, at bottom, you have
no control over the venue, the method of delivery or any of that.
With a relatively normal person in a typical custody situation, you
could place a certain amount of trust in the rules to keep things in
line.
But there are no rules for this. And X cannot be trusted. EVER.
She has already demonstrated that she is totally incapable of
honoring her word, and doesn't give a shit about your wants, needs,
and expectations.
As for Mike V. Fuck him. It's all well and fine for him to be all
judgmental. X didn't use him, ask him to lie for her, judge him,
break his heart, betray him, and then expect him to be all forgiving
and stuff when the shit hit the fan.
Moreover, whatever moral responsibility you might feel for the kids
has no legal weight whatsoever. In other words, following Mike's
Program for Your Behavior, you're supposed to take on all of this
stuff, which you are not legally obligated to do, and, because X
is the custodial parent, could be legally snatched away from you at
her merest whim. In contrast, Cora, as a blood relative, is the
person who should be legally responsible for those kids if/when X
and Mike cannot keep them.
I'd go the mom route first, and if she doesn't have any info, and you
still want to follow up, try Mike.
But remember, he may take that opportunity to give you shit, and/or
you may find out more than you wanted to know.
2144 Re: Yahoo messenger from X
Apr. 23, 2004
This song came up in my Launchcast. Perfect!!!
Erasure, Drama!
One rule for us, for you another
Do unto yourself as you see fit for your brother
Is that not within your realm of understanding?
A fifty second capacity of mind, too demanding?
Well then poor unfortunate you
There are a myriad of things that you can do
Like pick up a pen and paper or go talk to a friend
The history of the future
No violence or revenge
Your shame is never...ending
Just one psychological drama after another
You are guilty and how you ever entered into this life
God only knows, the infinite complexities of love
We all have the ability
Our freedom is fragile
We all laugh and we cry don't we?
We all bleed and we smile
Your shame is never...ending
Just one psychological drama after another
You are guilty and how you ever entered into this life
God only knows, you're not to sacrifice the art of love
Your shame is never...ending
Just one psychological drama after another
You are guilty and how you ever entered into this life
God only knows, the infinite complexities of love
Your shame is never...ending
Just one psychological drama after another
We are guilty and how you ever entered into this life
The Lord only knows, the ultimate necessity of love