An earthy meditation on "equanimity"

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I've been trying to get my head around Maitri, which is, in a nutshell, wishing for myself and others: "happiness and the root of happiness," "freedom from suffering and the root of suffering" "Joy" and "Equanimity"

Equanimity has been a tough one. I've been hit hard and often in the last few months with thoughts and feelings of "If Thax doesn't love me, I'll die" and "If Thax leaves me, I'll die,"...and that grasping, clinging, panic, and holding on so desperately and miserably, ironically, LIMITS the love that Thax and I can share. It limits us, period.

I don't know what Pema Chodron would think of this, but I like it.

Thanks to turbojj for the linky.

Comments

[bramblekite.livejournal.com]

Thank you for these long & thoughtful replies. You've given me a lot to think about.

The real measure of our relationships is the degree to which they allow us to grow and work out our own enlightenment.

Exactly! You said this so well. Ego is such a killer...of everything good in ourselves, our relationships and what they could be.

*hugs* Thank you :)