Why, yes, I do look like the shithead here, don't I?

[evile]

I blew up, I freaked out, I got mad, I'm the bad guy. It's all on me. Aren't I the unreasonable bitch? Aren't they just the innocent wounded parties having to deal with the sicko crazy woman. Poor poor little victims. Soooo mistweated and misunderstood. So sad.

What I find most interesting about interacting with emotional manipulators is how they can push past your bounaries til you blow up, then step back and play the oh so reasonable and noble hurt party. This is a game I do not play well. Especially not when I'm recovering from fricken emergency eye surgery.

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[bramblekite.livejournal.com]

When you violate someone else's boundaries or hurt their feelings, the correct response is not "But I needed to violate your bounaries/hurt your feelings, FOR ME," and proceed to give a laundry list of excuses and justifications for why you did what you did.

A more correct response would be "I apologize for violating your boundaries. I am sorry for hurting you. You must be feeling very hurt and very uninterested in trusting me any more, and I understand that. How can I fix this? Or is this not fix-able? If it is fixable, what can I do in the future? What would you like me to do now to help you feel better?"


Some fucking acknowledgment of my feelings, not a laundry list of why you fucked me up and why you feel justified in doing so.

[emmainfiniti.livejournal.com]

Hugs.

[made-of-paradox.livejournal.com]

*hug*

If the boundaries were described before they were violated, then doing that to someone in the midst of a health crisis? Ick. Just, ick.

And, well, someone in a crisis is going to have a shorter fuse, and anyone incapable of taking that into account doesn't deserve to be exchanging oxygen in the same atmosphere as you. (OK, that was gross (as in, large, not as in ewwwww) hyperbole. But I felt righteous when I was typing it.)