Things I've learned from my friends

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1. Don't call during their TV shows (which are always on, it seems)

2. My problems are never as big and bad as theirs are, so don't bother mentioning them.

3. My success is a good reason to buy them stuff and do stuff for them. Why else would I be calling to share my happiness?

4. Don't invite them anywhere unless I'm going to pay.

5. No matter how carefully we've planned a get-together, if someone else calls or something comes up, I will be ditched at the last minute.
(5A would be: I am the one to call if none of your other friends are available, there's nothing on TV, the VCR is broken, and the batteries on your vibrator are dead--pretty much the last ditch option.)


6. I'm not interesting enough all by myself to be worth spending time with. I need to invite them to parties and get-togethers where my cool friends will be.

7. Nobody wants to spend time with me for who I am, only for what I have, who I know, and what I can do for them.

And I guess that's about it.

So if anyone was wondering why I am not in the habit of calling, writing, touching bases, or inviting them places...that's why. I've had a bunch of bad friendships that have taught me ugly things and I am trying to unlearn them so I don't create more bad friendships.

Comments

[feetwilltravel.livejournal.com]

I have those "cool" friends too. You're one of them. I think sometimes we hold our friends with too high of an opinion. I know I do... Oh "X" wouldn't want to just hang out with me because I don't have anything "interesting" to do, nothing "interesting" to talk about, etc. I'm beginning to believe that I don't have to be "cool" by any one's standards but my own. *smiles*

exactly :)

[bramblekite.livejournal.com]

And, really, what's the worst that could happen if I picked up the phone and called one of the cool people I know? They're busy, so what? I guess it is somehow less hurtful to ASSUME someone is too busy to see you than to actually hear the word 'no'... silly!

I am going to try and get better at this. Your self-improvement kick is inspiring me :)