thought for the day...

[evile]

spurred by an entry by kulilinei

"Oh, I can't talk to _____, they're not ______[christian, pagan, sharing my belief system.]"

change to

I CAN talk to them. I CAN work with them. I CAN achieve understanding and rapport. Because I AM [christian, pagan, living my life according to my belief system.]

My interactions aren't about controlling the other person, or making them think and believe as I do.

If I am working to be in alignment with my best thoughts, my most open heart, my best 'me'...I can talk with or work with ANYONE.

Just by giving up judgement and giving up needing or expecting them to behave a certain way.


Is this naive or foolish?

or is this me thinking & acting from LOVE rather than FEAR, as I've wanted to do & been trying to do for a long time now?

hm.

Comments

[terriblelynne.livejournal.com]

That is awesome. Thanks for sharing. :-)

[bramblekite.livejournal.com]

I struggle between being too-cynical and too foolishly trusting...

I still think there *are* toxic and malicious people out there, who are best avoided if possible.

But I still think it's best for me & everyone else if I refrain from judgement or attempts at controlling.

If nothing else, if I don't get into ego-contests or struggles for control with the toxic people, they'll get bored and go away. Right? Hopefully, anyway....

[terriblelynne.livejournal.com]

I still think there *are* toxic and malicious people out there, who are best avoided if possible.

Well, damn skippy. I've struggled with getting that concept across to people who, luckily, have never really suffered at the hands of such a person. It's definitely true.

I've jokingly nicknamed myself "Bitter Jaded Old Hag(TM)", just in acknowledgment of the fact that my past experiences definitely colour how I deal with my present, and that it can often be very difficult to look for the positive side when you've known different.

[bramblekite.livejournal.com]

But the fact is, you *do* deal with things from a more-or-less positive frame of mind...I mean, you're not stupid. You keep your wits about you and do what you need to do to feel safe, but you don't let other people keep you from being yourself and doing the best job of being you as you can...

You don't say "I can't talk to that guy because he's kinky." or "I can't talk to that girl becasue she's straight" or whatever...You are who you are, and I think you're pretty open to others even if they don't share all of your beliefs and practices, you don't cut people out completely or put demands on them to behave a certain way just because that's how YOU choose to behave.

I dont' think it's wrong to be cautious or reserved in dealing with new people...I just think it's best to be in charge of who and what YOU are and not worry too much about who and what other people are...unless, of course, they show themselves to be toxic! In which case, that still shouldn't stop you from being YOU, but just encourage you to go be you somewhere far from THEM!

Maybe I'm just going round in circles here...I see the point I'm trying to get to, but can't get there from here :P

totally OT

[terriblelynne.livejournal.com]

After like, three years here, I finally just met hojo_loves_you face to face for the first time, in the hallway. Hah!

Re: totally OT

[bramblekite.livejournal.com]

Yay! Isn't Hojo cool? :)

Re: totally OT

[terriblelynne.livejournal.com]

Indeed! And I hear Undersoul is playing on the 29th. :-)

Re: totally OT

[bramblekite.livejournal.com]

Yep, at 710(?) or some place like that, basically right next door to Headhunters and sort of across the street from Red Eyed Fly where they played earlier this month & will be playing again in July.

You comin' out?

Re: totally OT

[terriblelynne.livejournal.com]

There's some stuff going down next weekend that means that I need to play it by ear, but it's on the "strongly considered" list. :-)

[colorbars.livejournal.com]

If nothing else, if I don't get into ego-contests or struggles for control with the toxic people, they'll get bored and go away. Right?

Generally, I don't think so. The normal ones will go away. Those you don't care much about. It's the particularly bad ones (psychotic, neurotic, or just plain nuts) that won't and THOSE are the ones you have to worry about.

My 2 cents.