evilE
Jun. 25, 2004


me to J-Law:

I'm sending you [dad]'s thoughts on the breakup. I
agree 100%. Especially about Brother A's tendency to take
advantage when people offer him help.

It's too bad that this has upset my mom so much. Aunt L
and I are relieved and DONE. I guess we don't have as
much emotional investment in the idea of Brother A having
kids, or whatever.

I'm still not sure if I'll return The Rubber Pig's call. I
mean...Brother A is done. Therefore, I'm done. This woman
is a stranger that I don't care about and I don't even
have to make nice to anymore. So...why do I care if
she's upset? But I do like a little drama when it's
something that I have no emotional investment in. So,
I may call her. But with some kind of plan in place so
that I don't have to stay on the phone any longer than
I want to.
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J-Law:

I do feel bad for Brother A, and definitely for your mom - sounds like
she's taking it pretty hard. But it is certainly better that things
broke off now rather than later, when he had kids with her, or
whatever else. Hopefully, in time, your mom will realize that Brother A
is better off on his own for the time being, and will find someone
more suited for him in the future, when he is ready for this kind of
relationship.

[dad] is right - spiriting Brother A out of Austin to parts undetermined is
not a good idea. If I may be candid, he has spent much of his young
adulthood running from his problems and getting bailed out. He made
a bad decision, and he needs to stick around and face the music, and
hopefully, build himself a life and home. It won't be easy, but it
might be the making of him.

I can't see him being a cop at all. Reminds me of how Kenna arm-
twisted Ken into joining the army so he could support her.
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me to J-Law:

Looks like it's going to rain here. There is an outdoor bellydance &
fire show on Saturday night, which I want to go to assuming the rain
doesn't cancel it.

And Sunday's a picnic & tubing thing in San Marcos but it looks like
the park service is issuing advisories about the excessive rain
making all the creeks, rivers, etc. too dangerous to swim or tube :(
I'm doing my best to see if the picnic part is still on, but can't
get anyone to write back to me. Oh well.

I will definitely be mentioning the 'no bail out' tough love thing to
Aunt L & Uncle B next time I see them. Nobody in this family is in a
position to be able to afford to take care of Brother A, and he's an able-
bodied man, he needs to take care of himself now. *sigh* It's just
hard not to think of him as a kid/lil bro all of that protective
instinct stuff...

I had forgotten all about the Kenna/Ken army thing. I'm so glad Brother A
has a bit more self-esteem than Ken did!