ext_41860 ([identity profile] bramblekite.livejournal.com) wrote in [personal profile] evile 2011-07-26 03:29 pm (UTC)

I grew up alone. We moved a lot. I had books and an imaginary friend. I am good at entertaining myself and I am independent and self sufficient. I'm not afraid to go places and do things by myself. I can take care of myself. I can be comfortable being alone. I get more work done by myself and I hated group projects in school. But it's generally not my preference to be alone when I'm doing something fun or going somewhere interesting. A big part of the experience, for me, is the shared aspect of it

But, I can see your point. I would be anxious and unhappy if I felt responsible for other people's experience/enjoyment. I've made that mistake and gotten so wound up trying to make sure everyone was happy that no one enjoyed the day at all and they won't do things with me anymore... And it's never fun to try and have a good time with someone who is not in a mood to enjoy things (I used to drag my unwilling ex to things. Mostly he'd have a good time once we got there, but getting him there was so stressful and awful, I eventually gave up). So, for me finding the right 'traveling companions' is key :) I'd rather go places and enjoy them alone than deal with someone being a whiny bitch and ruining a nice meal or a day at faire or a beautiful view of Nature, a trip to visit family, or what have you

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